vanderbilt THIS

so, from tonight's party, to reiterate:
* if she is married, and he is alive, she is mrs. his name
* if she is married, and he is dead, she is mrs. his name
* is she is divorced, she is mrs. her name.
* ms. is best never used.

and for the record:
* girls get miss at birth until marriage
* boys get master until 18 (technically.) it becomes mister at that point.

think really hard about the above... fair? unfair? you tell me (and aunt amy...)